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Friday
Feb182011

The Upside

129.365 50mm f2 1/25 ISO 1600I heard this story on NPR the other day about why women still only make 78 cents to a man's dollar.  Completely infuriating.  Honestly, it's the kind of truth that makes me want to search the internet for a molotov cocktail recipe.  Until I realize that what, with the Patriot Act and all, just entering that search string is probably cause for a thorough waterboarding.

But yesterday was the one-year anniversary of the death of a good friend's father, so a few girlfriends took her out and drank frou frou drinks and ate divine Vietnamese food and, you know, talked.  We talked some about grief and loss, but more about life and work and politics and the kind of nonsense that really makes sense when you share it with your best friends.

It was the kind of evening that I suspect only women get to share.  That kind of connection almost makes up for the 78 cents on the dollar thing.  But not quite.

Reader Comments (12)

It definitely makes up for some of the remaining 22 cents; but we do need a *bit* of that money to buy sassy shoes and funky scarves so we can talk about those too. Great post!!!!!

February 18, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterKrista

Any chance of getting our 22 cents *and* our connections? Too much to ask?

February 18, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterCorinna

Buoyed by my resolve to be more vulnerable, I'll date myself and confess that I well remember the first time they even bothered to do the calculation.
It was 59 cents. Progress, yes. Way too slow, absolutely!

February 18, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterMarjorie

What a gorgeous photo - shining jewels of light! I'm not much of a drinker but I would drink those in a heartbeat.

February 18, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterBrenda

Very cool shot--love the off-balance feel. Though I've always been strongly on the side of workplace equality, now that I have a daughter I find myself consumed by these thoughts and often enraged. I want so badly for her to live in a world that treats her better. It's inconceivable to me that we have, throughout history, effectively suppressed half of our great minds. Where might we be if everyone got a fair shake?

February 18, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterChristopher

Marjorie, have you heard of Brene Brown? If you're working on embracing your vulnerability she is worth checking out: http://www.brenebrown.com/books/

Christopher, without a doubt women (in this country anyway) are less suppressed than ever. Of the four women my at dinner last night, all are very successful professionally. What infuriates me about the persistent wage gap is that it is a vestige of a time when it was assumed that men's salaries funded the family economy and that women's incomes (when they worked) were just for "pin" money. If this dubious belief was actually ever true on a widespread scale, it certainly is not now. The study quoted in the NPR piece about the different perceptions of men and women asking for raises *using the exact same script* also made steam come out of my ears. I hope by the time your daughter enters the workforce this wage gap will be one of those shameful chapters that we look back on and wonder how civilized people could have justified it for so long.

February 18, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterCorinna

I absolutely love this photo Creen! I want to focus on the positive here (not the fact that we are mostly underpaid) :the vibrant colors, the light through the glass knowing you were hanging with some sistas last night. And hoping we too get to share a beautiful, delicious, beverage in the very near future. Perhaps in the next 12 hours even.

February 18, 2011 | Unregistered Commenternell

love the bokeh and the composition

February 19, 2011 | Unregistered Commenterkrunal

Told my wife about your post last night and she had similar things to say. There are certainly lingering inequities but overall women, as you say, are better off than at any point before. She also reminded me of the plight of women (and kids) around the world which in turn reminded me of the World Press Photo of the Year 2010. It's an extremely disturbing but important image of a young Afghani girl brutalized by her husband. I'll send you the link; it's a perfect example of how photography and photojournalism can change the world.

I just realized I've completely harshed the cool buzz of your post. Sorry! :(

February 19, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterChristopher

I'm practically a disciple of Brene Brown. It was her TED talk that inspired my focus on vulnerability in the first place. I love that iPads are sold with the TED app - what a treasure trove of exciting ideas and inspiration.

February 24, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterMarjorie

nice image, loved the angle. appreciate your thoughts too

February 28, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterAyush

This is so fun! It could also be in the bokeh group!

April 26, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterPuna

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